I can change myself if I like to. No matter how old I am: A reprogramming is possible. Old, outdated, burdensome beliefs and thought patterns (dogmas) are transformable.
How do I begin?
The first step is consciousness. Switch off automatisms. Consciously perceiving the situation, in which I am putting myself. Consciously listening, looking on, perceiving. Carefully listening to myself too. How do I speak, how do I think, how do I act. That needs practice. Every day I plan to remember this several times a day, because I keep falling in the headless subconscious attitude again and again. To transform something about myself is quite exhausting. A "learning new".
Detect and change
As second step, I consider what I want to practice next. I start with detecting ego programs. I can avoid what I recognize. Why do I compare myself with my colleague? Why I am envious and want to have what my neighbour owns? Why do I want to be like my girlfriend? Wherefore I am dissatiesfied? Do I even see the good in my life?
Once I learn to recognize, I can look at myself exactly and can discover what I need to be happier. What do I lack? What burden me? What could I change, what do I like to change? What I don't want to change, about that I spare to whine because then that's how I want it to be. Step by step, I key ahead, whether it is concerned with perspectives, positive talking, active listening, empathy or indulgent behavior with others and myself.
The right time
I feel intuitively what fits best for me, what appeals to me and at that point I begin. Often I found a certain topic without interest for me completely at a certain moment, but later on perhaps a book about that theme falls into my hand and suddenly it's exactly what I want to learn or to know, I want to work on or think about. Unimaginable a year ago.
Everything has its time. Everything builds on each other. The wrong order or evencoercion let get stuck every development.